No matter how accomplished you are, no matter how many things you achieved in life – the voice in our head tends to be on critical alert all the time. We wouldn’t dare talking to other people like that but the voice tends to be extremely cruel. Nasty. Derogatory.
It’s easy for us to applaud others and hear when they applaud us. But we rarely say to ourselves “Great Job!” or “Wow, I never thought I could be that good.” It’s easy for us to comfort others but it’s hard for us to give ourselves a hug. We say to others: “Try as hard as you can, that’s all you can do.” But we don’t believe in that philosophy when it comes to us.
This nagging feeling of inadequacy is always with us. It can drive us to accomplishments and pushes us to work harder. But it can get tiring when you beat yourself up all the time.
Next time your voice starts a rant, just tell it to shut up. We all need to manage that voice better.
Great quick blip.
I was just talking about this phenomenon with someone close to me just yesterday. It does get tiring and it is difficult to control. Is it even possible to control. How do you tell it to shut up?
I haven’t found a way yet. I sometimes blame myself still for events completely out of my control. (that voice then tells me, was it really out of your control? Could you not have foreseen this and done something?)
The danger with that voice is that it slows you down. It makes you think too much. It can make you hesitate, too much.
Uwe, how do you make that voice stop?
(sounds a bit creepy doesn’t it)